I don’t remember why, but at the supper table the other night I said “I am so stupid.”
Joe nodded in agreement.
I said to Mark, with as much shocked outrage as I could muster “Can you believe he agreed with me?”
Unfortunately, he did believe it. The boys get their snarkiness from somewhere, and it’s not completely my fault.
I said to Joe “Dude, when a girl, and especially your Mom, says something like that, in a self-deprecating manner, you don’t agree with her.”
That resulted in a few moments discussion about what self-deprecating means…
I decided to continue the teachable moment, expanding the thought to other situations in which you have to be careful how you respond, and said “When a girl asks you something like ‘Do I look fat in this?’ be careful about how you answer, because it’s usually a trap. You can’t say ‘yes’ because you just told her that you think she looks fat. And you can’t say ‘no’ because she probably won’t believe you.”
Before I could continue, Mark said “So the only thing to do is run away, as fast as you can.”
Everyone had a good laugh at that.
I don’t know what made me do it, but I said to Mark “So, honey, I’m pretty good about not asking you questions that will trap you, right?”
Yes, Mark got up and ran away from the table.
Fantastic. That husband of yours is something else.
Terri Smeigh says
Oh Suzanne, thanks for the laugh…priceless!
When they ask if they are fat – you have to assume they are meaning Phat…. at least that is what my boys are banking on, and why they won’t be married until they are 90!